This is one of those topics that might have been extensively covered but still does NOT address the core of the issue. Before writing this article, I decided to devote some time researching other articles with a similar motive of helping people find a date (or in some cases multiple dates). At the end of my research, I realized that this topic is not being addressed at the core, and so decided to write about it. How to find a date? – Hmm, the answer is simple and it is two-fold. So, here we go… The key to finding a date is MINDSET…you read that right. I did say mindset. Actually, prior to getting anything you want, having a clear mindset is key. To find a date is easy…in fact to find many dates is also very easy…but the end goal is to find a date that is worth your time and energy. Someone that makes you look forward to meeting them and talking to them. Someone that brings a smile to your face, and so on. So, what do I mean by mindset? I simply mean, be clear about the following:

• Your likes and dislikes in a person that might interest you romantically, without being too rigid about it. (No, having a checklist of your perfect date is NOT recommended…but simple knowing what is important to you, and what you want to avoid is good enough).
• Be positive – I know this has been said to all of us a million and a half times in the last few days alone…but this is important.
• Be happy – This alone is the most important factor in finding a date, improving your relationships, making and keeping friends, etc. Happiness is deemed by many as the most attractive quality in men and women. Just think about the people you know in your life that are positive and happy most of the time. Aren’t they usually surrounded by people? The fact is that we all want to feel good, and being around happy people feels good.

Now to the second part of finding a date. Once you have a good mindset about the topic of dating, and you are not falling into the trap of believing that all men are idiots or all women are gold-diggers, then the rest is easy. Now, it is all about networking and being social. Think about joining groups, classes, sporting activities, etc. This is all about having fun. Even though we started this article about how to find dates, that should only be at the back of your mind at this point. Instead focus on doing whatever you love, but think of doing it in groups…e.g., if you like reading, why not start a reading club, and invite as many people as possible and make this club interesting by having potluck and so on. If you like cooking, salsa, etc. join a class, and so on. Be social, be positive and happy, and you will see your social life improve, and so will your dates. For some examples on how to find a date, consider the following points (this list does NOT include online dating):

1. Take an adult education class in something that interests you. Here, you can learn a new skill and potentially meet your dream date, all while having fun. I personally took an acting class a few years ago, and met some good people there.

2. Social functions like weddings, reunions, and the like are always a great time to meet new people. If you see someone you like, ask a mutual friend for introduction.

3. Volunteer for a group or an area of interest for which you have a passion. What better way to meet someone that may be compatible with you?

4. Attend art gallery and museum openings and functions. If art is your ‘thing’, then this is be another interesting way to meet other like minded people. At the same time, when you get there, make sure that you do not spend all your time stuck to your friends. Take a quick your by yourself…this enables others to come and talk to you.

5. Join a professional organization. This will help you professionally as well as personally. Working on projects with other people is a good way to meet some new people.

6. Join a health club or a casual sports group such as softball leagues, golf, ski clubs, sailing, etc. And don’t rule out groups just because you’ve never done it before. If you’ve always wanted to learn how to sail, then join a group and learn. There’s always room for newbies.

7. Join various groups of interest to you. If you belong to a religious group, see if they have any groups that interest you. If you like to volunteer, join a group that supports the cause of your choice. If you like to run, join a group of fellow runners in your neighborhood.

8. Music Shows and Theater are a fun way to meet see new people. Go see a band, a play, the orchestra, or an opera. There are many more place where you can find a date, but the bottom line is that by being social and in a good frame of mind, you increase your chances dramatically to meeting your match.

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