Flirting Tips for Men & Women
If you have ever been in a relationship before or wish to be in one, you probably know that first impressions matter the most. It is therefore essential that one has mastered the art of flirting.
Flirting is a like a dance, a game… to be played and enjoyed while discovering the person with you. Flirting is the delicate art of showing interest without giving too much attention. Different people have different ways to achieving this. In this article I have outlined some of the most basic ways to flirt.
You ask, “How to flirt?” Here it is…
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Eye Contact: To flirt, start with eye contact. Look at the person that interests you (no, not stare, but a simple look of interest), and then move your attention back to your friends or whatever you were doing. If you see the person of interest also looking at you (not an annoyed or scared look but a pleasant or curious look), then that’s a good start.
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Smile: This is one of the most basic yet most important things anyone can do to flirt or even just generally. This makes you come across as a friendly and sociable person. Many men and women do not smile enough, and in general seem far too serious than they truly are.
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Use Humor: Again, this is very powerful…but not all humor is equal. The kind of humor I am talking about here is the cool and witty humor that is often deemed charming more than funny. The key is not to crack jokes or come across as a clown but to use humor to release and build tension at the same time (in many cases women understand this tension more than men, while many men are used to take things very literally).
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Avoid Heavy Conversations: Some people do not know how to flirt, and have the habit of asking serious questions or starting serious conversations as soon as they start speaking with others. When attracting a mate, this is a no-no. You can save all your ‘save the planet / save the world’ conversations when you know a person well enough. Initially, simply focus on meeting a new person and having a good time (which can simply be a light-hearted conversation).
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Touch: One of the key indicators of whether someone is interested in you or not is whether they touch you (a casual touch on the shoulder, a pat, and so on…to holding your hand, etc.).
General suggestions about ‘how to flirt‘:
One suggestion to women is that if the guy you are flirting with is not understanding your clues, it is because they are too subtle for him. You might think that’s not possible, as you are being very obvious…but chances are he’s taking your words literally.
One suggestion to men is that do not expect women to love the stories and jokes that are appreciated by your male buddies. Even though many women seem like they are “type A”, they still love to be treated like a woman (at the same time, do not become overly careful around women and change who you are).
There are many other subtle clues and pointers but in reality you will generally “know” (intuitively) whether the person that interests you likes you or not. Bottom line is to have fun and let it unfold.
Hope you enjoyed our post about How to Flirt! Also, read through our post about the Best Online Dating Websites.
