Speed Dating: Make a Lasting Impression
Speed dating was originally created by Rabbi Yaacov Deyo as a way to help Jewish singles meet and marry. Now, people from all walks of life are finding their partners using the fun and exciting system. Speed dating has become popular across the United States as well as in Canada and the United Kingdom.
How Does it Work?
A speed dating service organizes each event and participants register in advance. At the event, men and women (or same sex couples) are rotated through a series of short dates which each last 5 to 10 minutes. At the end of each date, a signal is sounded and the participants move on to the next person.
When the event is over, participants give the organizers a list of the people they’d like their contact information passed on to. This is a great approach as it keeps you from having to reject someone to their face. If there is a match, the organizers let you know and you are free to meet your date at your leisure.
What Are The Advantages?
Have you ever been stuck on a boring date where you’re literally counting the minutes till it ends? With speed dating, that doesn’t happen. You only have a few minutes to get to know someone, so participants work on making a good first impression. People talk about what’s important to them, so awkward lapses in the conversation are rare.
Speed dating events often take place in informal, comfortable environments. Since you’re not stuck in a loud club or bar, you can actually hear what people are saying and have a meaningful conversation. Furthermore, because of the safe environment, people can show up alone without feeling apprehensive or out of place.
How to Make a Great Impression?
Because speed dates last for only a few minutes, it’s important to make a positive, lasting impression. Here are a few tips to help you wow your dates:
Hygiene is kind of a given. Come to the event freshly showered with clean hair and clothing. Be careful with the perfume and cologne, a little goes a long way.
Clothing should reflect who you are as a person, but remember to keep it classy.
A simple compliment can be very endearing. Compliment your date’s clothing, jewelry, hair, smile or eyes. It shows that you took the time to appreciate their appearance.
Talking about yourself is good! If you only focus on asking your date questions, you will come off as interrogative (or worse, creepy).
Keep your conversation positive and upbeat. Avoid talking about past relationships and other gloomy topics.
Remember to be yourself. Being upfront about your life and who you are will ensure your matches like you for you!
By keeping these simple tips in mind, you can make a fabulous first impression. Speed dating is a great way to meet a variety of new and exciting people. With a bit of luck, you may even end up finding Mr. or Ms. Right! Good luck out there!
Mary Shroedinger did her fair share of dating before finally meeting her husband at a local farmer’s market. She knew he was the one when after only two weeks of dating, he had a box of Shari’s Berries delivered to her office. They have two children and have been happily married for eight years.